Introduction

In this episode of SoloMoms! Talk, I speak with Michelle DeKeyser, a mother of three who began a transformative path of self-discovery and growth by expanding her role beyond that of a mother. Michelle shared her insightful thoughts on the significance of understanding and fulfilling human needs, encouraging us to take the first steps toward discovering what a joy-filled life means to us.

The Importance of Recognizing and Honoring Personal Needs

I’m sure you’re aware of the way in which our roles as mothers can often consume us to the point that we forget who we are as individuals. Michelle reminds us that it is vital to pause for a moment, take some time to reflect, and reacquaint ourselves with our individual goals and passions. This perspective is important to our self-discovery and growth.

Listen to the interview with Michelle below:

Nurture Relationships Through Shared Interests

Michelle’s quest to achieve her black belt in martial arts, which she accomplished alongside her son, was an exciting highlight of her journey. This joint success not only aided her personal development but also deepened her relationship with her child. Michelle’s experience emphasizes the importance of similar interests and activities in nurturing relationships, a concept that extends beyond parent-child relationships to connect with other moms as well.

Connecting Mamas: Fostering Connections and Support

Connecting Mamas, Michelle’s unique six-week course aims to foster these connections. The course provides a safe space for mothers to learn more about themselves and create meaningful connections with each other. Michelle believes that sharing experiences, insights, and struggles can help mothers navigate the often challenging journey of motherhood, fostering a supportive and understanding community.

Shifting the Mindset Around Self-Care

Michelle emphasizes the importance of shifting the mindset from feeling guilty about taking care of ourselves to taking positive and incremental action towards self-care. This perspective aligns with the current trend of self-care being viewed as essential rather than a luxury. As moms, it’s easy to get caught up in the constant demands of caregiving and overlook our own needs. But nurturing our well-being is fundamental for maintaining balance and overall health.

It’s important to recognize that many of the steps we take to implement self-care into our lives, such as journaling and getting enough sleep, lead us to self-discovery and growth.

Beyond the Buzzword to Self-Discovery and Growth

The concept of self-care goes beyond the buzzword it has become in popular culture. It’s about growth, self-discovery, and recognizing what lights up your life. It’s about taking baby steps toward activities that provide joy, satisfaction, and a sense of achievement. It’s about acknowledging the importance of self-care not as a selfish act, but as a necessary component of a healthy, balanced life.

Building Healthy Connections

Taking the initiative to reach out to other mothers, even if it feels intimidating at first, is another essential aspect of Michelle’s advice. She encourages the creation of dedicated spaces for mothers to support each other, reinforcing the notion that motherhood is best experienced when shared.

The important thing is to remember that you’re not alone in your journey. Building safe connections with other solo moms can help you gain perspective on your own life as a mother.

Conclusion

Michelle DeKeyser’s story serves to encourage and remind us that cultivating our sense of self and personal growth is not only desirable but is also an essential part of being a parent. Her life experiences highlight how important it is to form connections with other people, strive for personal growth, and courageously embrace the joys and challenges that come with being a mom.