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How to Create an Amazing Journey to Self Love


Your journey to self-love is an individual one. Recognize that it is important and safe enough for you to express your feelings as you continue your journey. 

But to achieve self-love you must learn to love and accept yourself for who you are so that you can obtain a sense of fulfillment that cannot be matched by anyone or anything.

Realize that you are worthy of love, peace, and happiness. So start your journey today

Your journey to self-love can be pleasurable or difficult depending on your personal experience. Your journey may be filled with enjoyable ways you can create to get you to that place of self-love.

But if loving yourself is difficult for you, that journey may be filled with fear, anxiety, and frustration.

For example, you may have to face the challenge of building or rebuilding a relationship with yourself. Maybe you did not have confidence in yourself or had low self-worth. You may find it challenging to move beyond your past mistakes. Or you may find yourself constantly worrying about different areas of your life.

What is self-love?


Self-love is a term that is used to describe the act of caring for oneself and valuing oneself. It includes many different aspects, such as self-care, self-compassion, and self-acceptance.

Self-love is not selfish – it’s a way of being present with yourself and not running from your inner truth.

Self-love can be difficult to achieve because there are so many ways that we are taught to be ashamed of ourselves. We have been conditioned to think that if we take care of ourselves, then we are being selfish or greedy. 

One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others.” ~ Bell Hooks

How to Cultivate Self Love

Self-love is the foundation for a healthy and happy life.

But how do you cultivate self-love?

First, we need to become aware of our own thoughts and feelings. We need to see ourselves as we are, not as how others see us. We need to stop comparing ourselves with others and find what makes us special. So we need to see ourselves as God sees us.

Once we identify these things about ourselves, it becomes easier to love ourselves. Second, we need to let go of the baggage that holds us back from love. We need to forgive ourselves for our mistakes and not hold onto them. We also need to forgive others for the mistakes they have made.

Third, we need to stop limiting ourselves to what society tells us is normal or proper.  Your journey to self-love will involve many ways to express and love yourself.  There is no wrong way.

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Your journey to self-love requires daily practice

Loving yourself doesn’t have a beginning or an ending.  We continue to practice self-love daily because that is how we create the presence of mind to be in purpose.

Self-love is the most important thing in the world because without it, we can’t be happy.

However, we should not think of self-love as a replacement for human interaction. It’s just a way to make sure that we are taking care of ourselves and our mental health.

Practicing self-love daily is important because it’s something that will help us stay sane and healthy throughout our lives.

When you love yourself, you teach others to love you too.

  • Learn to love and accept yourself

When you are constantly feeling down, it is hard to see the good in your life. You either don’t see it at all or you see it as something that will go away.

If this is how you feel, then maybe it is time to stop and think about why you are feeling this way.

The first step to improving your mental health is to learn how to love and accept yourself. It’s not just about loving yourself but also about accepting the person that you are. You might think that this sounds like a simple thing, but for many people, it can be quite difficult. for them to love themselves.

People might think that they are not good enough or will never measure up to what society thinks is perfect. For these people, accepting themselves is a process of letting go of the ideas they have in their heads and becoming comfortable with who they are.

Loving yourself will require unlearning what you’ve learned.

It’s also important that people don’t forget to love others because while it’s an innate part of who you are, it’s easy when you’re self-loving to focus on your own needs.

  • Forgive your past

How do you forgive yourself?

The first step is to let go of the past. Let go of the feelings that you have been holding on to that don’t serve you.  The negative emotions that you have been suppressing.

Let them go and forgive yourself for everything that has happened in your life. It is okay to be at peace with who you are and what has happened in your life so far.

Let them go and make a list of everything that is going well in your life.  Focus on the positive things and learn to live in the here and now. 

Give yourself a pat on the back when you’ve accomplished something or achieved something that you’re proud of. List all the things in your life that are going well, it will help to be able to recognize what is working and what isn’t and make decisions on how to improve.

Also, let go of all of your resentments it can feel really good!

  • Say nice things about yourself

Positive self-talk is a powerful tool for boosting your confidence and self-esteem. It can help you to feel more positive about yourself and the world around you.

This technique is also known as positive affirmations which is one way to practice self-love.

It is one of the most effective ways to create a happier life for yourself.

The idea behind this technique is that by repeating positive statements to and about yourself, you will start to believe them and they will eventually become true. 

In fact, research shows that positive self-talk is great for our mental health.

So you believe in yourself and tell yourself so every day.

Although it’s not a substitute for therapy or medical care the Confident Affirmations Technique is said to help with stress and anxiety.

  • Practice gratitude

Practicing gratitude has been shown to increase happiness and improve mental health.  By improving your mood, gratitude will give you a sense of wellbeing which could enhance your self-love.

Also, gratitude journaling is a way of practicing gratitude by writing down things that we are grateful for on a daily basis.

When you experience something that is difficult or challenging, you might find it helpful to practice gratitude during the time that it takes to heal. What are some thoughts and feelings about gratitude?

The following are some of the different feelings associated with gratefulness: appreciation, awe, contentment, contentment, compassion, excitement, and/or joy.

Some people may feel thankful towards a certain person or object as well as show gratitude for what they have been given in their life. A sense of optimism may arise and the person may feel a stronger state of mind and be more willing to take on challenges in life.

Gratitude journaling helps you focus and can be as simple as writing three things you are grateful for at the end of the day. 

Also, using prompts such as “what were you grateful for this morning?” or “what did you learn today?” can help you if you have trouble focusing on what you’re grateful for.


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  • Create loving relationships with positive people

We all know good relationships are important for our happiness and success. But how do we create loving relationships? Why is it so difficult to make and maintain loving relationships?

There are some things you need to know about love: It’s not what you might think. It’s not an emotion that can be guided by your feelings, but rather the process of giving and becoming a person in a relationship with someone else.

In other words, love is an act of commitment. It is an act that requires work and development over time, along with growth in understanding what it means to be human.

We can start by learning how to be a good friend. It is important to be supportive and not be critical of others. And by setting boundaries, we can make sure that the other person doesn’t take advantage of us in unhealthy ways. 

Setting boundaries ensures you maintain your personal journey to self-love.

  • See yourself as God sees you

If you see yourself as God sees you, then you will realize that your beauty is not in the outer appearance but in the heart, mind, and soul. 

The key to our happiness and inner peace is to pray for things that are good for us.  And to know that God cares enough to give us the desires of our hearts.  Part of self-love is to seek help when we need it.  And no one can help us as God can.

Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. ~ 1 Peter 5:7

We are all human beings with a need to be loved and valued. We all have dreams that we want to fulfill. And we all want to feel like we belong in this world.

The key is to build a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Because you need to take care of your spiritual health and have faith.

  • Find Your Inner Voice and Listen To It

The idea of finding your inner voice is an old one. It has been around for as long as people have been trying to find themselves. The idea of listening to it, however, is a more recent concept.

It’s not so much about what you say, but how you say it. It’s not the words that matter, but the way they are said.

Your voice should be confident and assertive without being aggressive or overbearing;  it should be soft and gentle without being timid or submissive; it should be intelligent without being condescending or patronizing; and most importantly, your voice should sound like you.


It is important that we love ourselves. But our personal journey to self-love can be difficult depending on our life experience.

Self-Love involves daily habits that build our self-esteem and give us the confidence to be our best selves.

The path to self-love and acceptance starts within. We often feel like we are not good enough, there is something wrong with us, or that we need to be different in order to be accepted by others.

When you learn to accept yourself for who you are, and can see yourself as God sees you, then it will be easier for others to accept you too.

It is important to love ourselves.

Is you self-love compromised?  Click the below media to listen to my interview with Dr. Michelle R. Hannah.  She shares her tips and strategies for having healthy self-love.

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